by Caitlin Talbert, LPC

Strange, weird, scary, uncertain, unprecedented; all words I have heard to describe the current circumstances surrounding COVID-19 around the globe, in our nation, and in our state. I have heard people describe the looks of others as they pass each other in stores; fearful, paranoid, and worried. I have also heard hope in people. I have seen the friendly waves of a fellow traveler glad to see another person out and about. I have experienced story after story of people connecting in ways they have not connected before. I have seen creativity emerge in attempts to reach out to one another.

We cannot get around the fact that right now things are uncertain, and we find ourselves in the midst of a great challenge of finding the balance between fear and disregard. Somewhere in the middle we will find wisdom, patience, and understanding. This doesn’t mean that we won’t have moments or days where we are irrational, worried, and perhaps feeling helpless. This does mean that we can return to wisdom, patience, and understanding in the midst of things. 

How? 

• If you notice yourself becoming anxious or fearful as you continue to think over the current circumstances, the better part of wisdom may be to refocus or redirect thoughts to something else for a while. 
   
• If you find yourself feeling as though this situation will be going on forever, it could serve you well to think of those who are working their hardest to improve the current situation and help in any way they can. 
   
• For those who find themselves feeling cooped up and restless from being inside; stepping outside, taking a walk, or simply looking out the window and taking a slow deep breathe in and exhale slowly out could be helpful. Really take the time to observe the things you see outside and note them to yourself. I see the buds forming on the trees, I see robins bouncing through the grass, and I see some blue in the sky above me just through those treetops. 
   
• For those that find themselves getting frustrated with people around them; perhaps think on the other person in a different way. We are all in a similar boat. Some have experienced tragedy and loss recently, some are concerned for loved ones, some are simply trying to provide for their family during economic uncertainty, and others are adjusting to much different circumstances at home than they were just a month ago. One thing is for sure, it is likely that few of us are at our best right now. Grace and understanding for yourself and others will ultimately make this time more manageable. 

The imaginable circumstances each of you is dealing with are nearly endless. If I were to create a list of possibilities I might be writing for quite some time. Whatever those circumstances may be, please know that you do not have to be alone in them. At River Counseling and Sioux Falls Psychological Services, we meet you where you are, offering hope. You may schedule an appointment with the Platte office or meet with one of our Sioux Falls Psychological Services therapists from your own computer or smart phone by calling 605-334-2696.